“… This summer, an alcohol-fueled argument escalated into something I deeply regret. I have said and done things that are unacceptable and I take full responsibility for my actions. Although there was never any physical violence, I am deeply sorry for the fear and trauma my anger caused. Since then I have been given the opportunity to step back, reflect, evaluate, heal and grow. Although the path was unfortunate, the destination was necessary. I was able to embrace sobriety, spirituality and integrity. I managed to find myself and love myself again. The clarity and perspective I now have is invaluable and has fueled my determination and dedication. It’s no coincidence that the next chapter of my life begins when I turn 40, and I can’t wait to live the rest of my life as the best version of myself that I’ve ever been and continue to give back to my community.”

Shit. Then, and especially now.

It is clear that Sutherland’s main concern was the impact of his legal case on his career. What’s more, he knows he has the power to shape the narrative of the next chapter of his life.

Powerful men always do. Sutherland’s success and charm could yet give him the platform to earn an abundance of grace, and an apparently consensual encounter with the alleged victim will only heighten those ambitions. But those accused of domestic violence should not have the ability to proclaim their salvation. They are not reliable sources.

The criminal complaint from the summer incident shows the alleged victim told police Sutherland had been physically and verbally abusive in the past. It’s a familiar story. Too familiar. According to the National Hotline4 out of 5 victims of intimate partner violence from 1994 to 2010 were women. And more than three-quarters of female victims aged 18-49 were “previously victimized by the same offender”.

Thursday’s arrest complicates Sutherland’s legal case and perceptions about his summer tryst with his girlfriend. But it doesn’t change the facts.