Dear ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. Over the past few years, a male friend of ours (also married) has taken an interest in my wife. He obviously finds her attractive, as most men do, but I’m trying to figure out what his intentions are.

He comments to me about her and her body, so if he’s trying to hide his crush on her, he’s not doing a very good job. I know my wife finds him attractive too, although when I mention his name she shrugs and says they’re just friends. He has a lovely wife and seems to be a devoted husband and father to his grown children.

I know my wife loves me, but his frequent comments cause me concern. I don’t always show my wife the attention she deserves, so should I step up my game to avoid someone else? Should I be concerned that this man’s intentions are more than “just friendly” and talk? — SUSPECT IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR BUSPICIOSTI: You have the right to tell this friend that his comments about your wife’s body are inappropriate and you want them stopped. You also have the right to become a more attentive husband. I’m sure your wife would appreciate it. I don’t think it’s necessary to ask this man if his “intentions are more than friendly.” You weren’t born yesterday and you already know the answer is yes.

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