And making space for this downtime is crucial, according to psychologist Phoebe Rogers—because, left unchecked, anger can lead to depression and disconnection from others.

“Anger is much less socially acceptable for women to express,” Rogers previously said Mommy. But it’s important to tune in, because they’re usually trying to send us a message.

“Anger is the best kind of emotional messenger to reflect, evaluate and enact change,” she said.

“It requires immediate attention; it requires rest and a serious re-evaluation of life.

In the case of the mother who asked for help through the Facebook community, that message was: severe exhaustion.

“With more attention than ever given to a woman’s worth based on her ability to juggle both professional and social environments, ‘having it all’ seems to have come at a price where what we don’t have enough of is rest,” says the mental. health expert Tracey Horton.

“Remember that old saying, fit your own oxygen mask first? It’s a cliché, sure, but clichés are full of truth, and it applies to all aspects of life. Relaxation included.”

Reduce the pressure.

For many parents, the pressure to be everything to everyone is part of the problem—and that can include feeling like we have to devote every moment of our time to entertaining the kids. But Dr. Daniel Golshevsky, aka Dr. Gollysays that there is no need to give your children your undivided attention all the time.