She is called a gold-digging, money-hungry, transactional manipulator. Is it secretly just a fit for her, or could she have been prepared for this situation? While there are many signs of a transactional relationship, there could be other reasons why she treats love like a contract.

Here are 6 signs you have a transactional selfish wife:

1. She seems to be only for herself

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A transactional relationship is where your spouse married you for the benefits you bring to the marriage, not because he wants build a loving and intimate relationship. A transactional wife is more focused on “what” the relationship will bring her, as opposed to what she can give to the relationship.

You feel like you give and give and don’t get love and appreciation in return. She is not open and honest, and she is not interested in offering the kind of vulnerability necessary to build a truly intimate and loving relationship, as discussed by a study from Journal of Personality Research.

— Jennifer Hargraveowner and attorney, Hargrave Family Law

2. It trades privacy

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Women who use privacy to reward or punish their wives see the relationship as transactional. When she sends you to sleep in another room because she doesn’t like your behavior or a choice you made, she treats privacy as a reward for good behavior.

It can put a great strain on a marriage. A study in Issue of the American Journal of Family Therapy how a healthy couple will see intimacy as a time of pleasure and bonding. Instead, he uses it as a power play, where he holds all the cards.

— Gloria BramePh.D., Therapist

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3. He needs gifts to soothe hurt feelings

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Some women will use guilt to get their husbands to buy expensive gifts. She cries when he hurts her feelings and he hates it when she cries. Instead of exploring his behavior that hurt her, he asks her how to make it better.

So he has a shopping list, from cars to clothes, and he holds out his phone and says, “Well, you can buy me this thing I’ve been looking at.” And buy it for her to apologize, like demonstrated by a study in Journal of Retail and Consumer Services. She stops sulking temporarily, but it may only last a week before the cycle repeats.

— Aria Gmitter, Editor

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4. She prioritizes her own needs over yours

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Even when they do show up, you don’t feel appreciated or loved in the same way you hope. As a commercial transaction with clearly defined terms, Research explores the way transactional people interact in an if x then ya approach to relationships. Sure, you know what you are and won’t get from them, but it doesn’t exactly create a warm and fuzzy feeling in the recipient.

— Zayda Slabbekoorn, News and entertainment writer

5. She ridicules her income level

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Where did this make sense right come from? It’s nice to have someone pamper you, but if that’s your first and only requirement, there’s a problem. What happened to love? And more importantly, what happened to the ideology of the independent woman?

I have outgrown this ideology and it saddens me. I’ve learned that you never get anything for free. If someone gives you something, then you return the feeling. Nowadays, most people are more concerned with what kind of car they drive and what they can get from someone, instead of caring about who they really are, how partially supported by research.

— Christy Goldstein, Relationship coach

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6. “All Wives Are Transactional Wives”

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When marriage was invented, all wives were “transactional spouses” because fathers gave them to their husbands in exchange for property. The husband then offered food, shelter, and some degree of safety in exchange for her giving birth to his children.

This was not an unwritten social contract. Research outlines how this has been the legal definition of marriage for hundreds of years, and the traditions within it are hard to break away from, even though we’ve come to believe that love should be at the heart of marriage.

So while we may blame a “transactional wife” for manipulating her husband with intimacy, approval, or praise, we must keep in mind that she is following a tradition handed down since the beginning of written history.

The marriage tradition it was the only way women could survive once their fathers no longer cared for them. If we want something different, the whole structure of marriage will have to be reexamined.

— Joanna Schroederwriter, editor and media critic

We can spend all day looking at the countless ways a wife could show signs of being in a transactional relationship. However, when we peel away the layers of contradiction and control that have surrounded the institution of marriage since its inception, we can see how the marriage game was rigged from the beginning.

If you’re caught wondering if she’s a transactional wife, you’ve probably found the basis of traditional marriage. Marriage is an institution based on property rights and contractual obligations, so does it really make anything “hard”?

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