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Dear Abby: I’m scared of being alone, but my kids hate my cheating ex
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Dear Abby: I’m scared of being alone, but my kids hate my cheating ex

Dear ABBY:

I was in a five year relationship with a man. We broke up because he was unfaithful. Even though I am willing to forgive and still have feelings for him, my children do not like this man and do not want me to reconnect with him. My kids say that if I do, they don’t want to have a relationship with me anymore.

Their ultimatum doesn’t seem right. I’m afraid I won’t fall in love again and I don’t want to be alone later in life. Should I respect my children’s wishes and give up on a relationship with him or should I seek outside guidance and counseling to see if we can try to be a family like we originally planned? I really feel like he is the love of my life. Nobody is perfect. I’m willing to give it another chance, but I want my kids to accept it. I don’t know how or if they ever will. What should i do? — WHERE IN TEXAS

Dear LEANING:

Fear is the WORST reason for a couple to get back together. Your relationship didn’t work out because he’s a cheater. What makes you think this time will be different? There are worse things than being older and single. There is no guarantee that you won’t meet someone and fall in love.

Your kids don’t like this man for a reason. You wonder if you should seek outside guidance and counseling. Speaking as the first person you asked, I’m all for it. Your doctor can refer you to a qualified person.

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