Dear Abby: I am in an open relationship with my partner. We both enjoy bonding with other people, but only if we agree with that person. It was going great; I still have my one-on-one time with my partner. But now it seems that instead of only making love to me, the only time he wants to touch me is if someone else comes over. What is the best way to approach it? Should I suggest we stop inviting people to this kind of fun?

— Adventurous lady

Dear Lady: Your partner seems to have lost interest in one-on-one intimacy. If this is the case, they need to figure it out so you can adjust your life accordingly. Healthy relationships, open or closed, require honest communication. If you’re unhappy with the way your relationship has turned out, you have every right to say so.

Dear Abby: I am 58 years old and addicted. I have used drugs and alcohol for over 30 years and now I am 20 months clean, thank God. Throughout my addiction, I had a friend who was my strong supporter. I always considered him a friend since he was there when I was an active addict.

Now that I’m clean he wants to move on and move from friends to a relationship. Yes, I care about him, but he wants to get married without getting to know the real me first. He is a hard worker who does not drink or smoke. He just works and comes home. He’s exactly the type of man I’ve been looking for. Please advise me what I should do.

— Clean and sober in Florida

Dear Clean and Sober: Your statement that this man wants to get married without knowing the truth first (I assume you mean sober) speaks volumes to me. It tells me that you make mature judgments, for which I commend you. He may be just the guy you’re looking for, but hold off on marriage until you’re sure he knows and can accept your newfound self.