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6 Underrated Gestures That Make Men Feel The Most Loved, According To Research
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6 Underrated Gestures That Make Men Feel The Most Loved, According To Research

Grand, sweeping, and powerful romantic gestures are fine and dandy, but what about the everyday, mundane, gentle, and loving romantic gestures you can give to the person you love? Maybe you’re not one to put yourself out there. Maybe your partner is easily embarrassed and doesn’t like too much attention.

Whatever your reasons for wanting something smaller, here are five sweet romantic gestures you can give your partner anytime. Perform one or all of these sweet gestures and you’re sure to put a smile on your significant other’s face and more love in their heart.

Here are 6 understated gestures that make men feel the most loved:

1. Make him his favorite meal

the person who cooks Uriel Mont / Pexels

Make it their favorite meal from scratch. Is their favorite meal something that is inherently more difficult to create (like fish and chips, crème brulee, or a certain type of burger with a hard-to-find protein)? Perfect! You’ll get extra brownie points for trying it.

It doesn’t have to be the best they’ve ever had from that meal, but even the thought of trying to recreate it is a romantic gesture. That being said, do your best to make it as tasty/delicious as possible. According to a 2020 survey2/3 of Americans want a partner who can cook.

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2. Memorize her coffee order

man ordering coffee RDNE Project Stock / Pexels

Go to a nearby cafe and bring them back their favorite drink to wake up in bed (coffee, mocha, hot chocolate, latte). This gesture works even better if you’re a morning person and your partner isn’t.

Make sure you know exactly what their favorite drink is, for starters! Whether it’s a hot drink like coffee, tea, mocha, hot chocolate or a latte, or a cold drink like a certain smoothie, cold-pressed juice or coconut water, get absolute clarity on what their favorite drink is and then go and grab it for them.

The devil is in the details. And while it would still be a romantic gesture if you brought them the near-correct drink, they’ll feel much more seen and loved if you get it with 100% accuracy (especially if they’re picky about their drink).

Also, make sure you get their drink around the time they would naturally start to wake up. If you bring their favorite caffeinated beverage three hours before they normally start their day, they might not be as happy with you.

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3. Write her love notes

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Sporadically leave folded compliments in various places you know they will come into contact with, such as your diary, purse, makeup kit, tool box, kitchen drawers or lunch box. Writing love letters it’s a great way to express your appreciation for your partner. According to 2014 research, couples who regularly express gratitude and appreciation to each other report higher levels of relationship satisfaction and emotional closeness.

Similar to an Easter egg hunt, you want to leave your love notes in obvious enough places that they’ll find them in a week or two. That said, if you leave so much around the house that you forget where it all went, it wouldn’t be the worst thing if they found an extra touch of love in a particularly obscure location a week or even months later you they first placed the love notes around their lives.

Keep the content of your love notes fairly simple. One or two sentences are fine. Compliment things they are used to being complimented on and also things that are praised much less often.

Compliment their personality, their mind, their looks, who they are as a person and what they bring to your life. The options are truly endless.

4. Draw her a bth

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Before your partner gets home from work (or just a long day of errands), give them a bath and set the stage for a beautiful, relaxing sanctuary in which to relax. Make sure you have the correct water temperature. By this point in your relationship, you probably know what level of heat they like in their water (you’ve showered together, right?), so do your best to mimic that water temperature in your water when you arrive . home.

Hot baths, according studies from 2018are a great way to exercise. Add a few drops of your favorite essential oil to the water. Sprinkle a few dozen rose petals over the surface of the water.

Light some lightly scented candles around the room (only once they’ve entered, to avoid an unattended fire hazard). If you want to go all out, you can even ask if they’d like to either wash their hair for them, give them a foot massage, or both!

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5. Plan a romantic picnic

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Picnics are a great and inexpensive get-together. The statistics really tell us searches for picnics have increased 385% in the past two years on Pinterest. Plan a picnic for the two of you with their favorite foods and write a short love note on their napkin. Pack a backpack or basket full of the following:

  • Their favorite 2-3 snacks or sides
  • Two sandwiches or whatever their favorite food is
  • Two plastic champagne glasses
  • A miniature bottle of sparkling wine, cider or champagne
  • Two small portions of their favorite dessert
  • Three wipes: one for you, one for them, and the bonus wipe for your partner with your personalized love note written on it
  • A portable music player (and batteries) to play music that’s either relevant to the two of you or super cheesy and romantic. If you go for the second option, the more exaggerated the better!

6. Give her a massage

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Who does not love a good rub from their booing? There’s nothing like coming home after a long day at work and your partner has the whole apartment lit up with candles and tells you to lie back, relax and let go of the stress of your day. 2017 research confirms that giving – and receiving – a massage from your partner can help reduce stress and increase well-being.

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Jordan Gray is a five-time Amazon best-selling author, public speaker, and relationship coach with more than a decade of practice behind him. His work has been featured in The New York Times, BBC, Forbes, The Huffington Post and more.