October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Many people may be reluctant to talk about this problem, but it is more common than people realize.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates that approximately 41% of women and 26% of men in the United States have experienced some form of domestic violence.

These can include physical attacks, sexual assaults, psychological abuse and even stalking.

Domestic Violence in Montgomery County

Domestic violence is also a serious problem in Montgomery County. State’s Attorney John McCarthy told MCM that his office has prosecuted more than 1,100 cases in District Court.

“That doesn’t include a lot of domestic violence cases that we handle in Circuit Court, so the numbers are much higher,” McCarthy said.

Watch Watch Montgomery

A non-profit organization called Court Watch Montgomery keeps track of domestic violence cases. The organization was founded in 2010 and formulated its advocacy work a year later.

“Since 2011, our organization has been the only organization in Maryland that observes and collects data on what actually happens during domestic violence hearings, said Lavontte Chatmon, executive director of Court Watch Montgomery.

“Our mission is to identify court practices that help keep victims safe and advocate for policy improvements. We want to ensure safety and access to justice for all victims of domestic violence. We serve as a bridge between the courts and the community to support comprehensive solutions to domestic violence,” she added.

Difficult cases to follow

Domestic violence cases are often difficult to prosecute.

“Domestic violence often happens behind closed doors with no third party witnesses. Victims of domestic violence may feel pressured not to participate in the criminal justice system. This pressure can come from the abuser, friends or family. There are other factors such as financial pressure, fear, shame, housing or food insecurity, to name a few,” said Assistant District Attorney Debbie Feinstein.

She heads the Special Victims Unit in the State Attorney’s office. Domestic violence affects more than just the people involved in the relationship.

Impact on the Community

“I want people to understand that domestic violence is not just a private issue, it’s a community issue that affects everyone’s safety and well-being. Domestic violence can affect families, children, workplaces and society as a whole. Victims face complex challenges including physical danger, emotional trauma, financial instability and systemic barriers when seeking help,” Chatmon told MCM.

Chatmon became involved with Court Watch Montgomery because she has long advocated for “vulnerable populations and improving the systems that serve them, especially victims of gender-based violence.” She has over 15 years of experience in mental health, women’s rights and victim services.

Types of abuse

There are different types of abuse. Physical abuse usually involves actions such as hitting, slapping or pushing. It involves actions that may cause physical harm. However, partners can inflict emotional and mental abuse on each other.

“These often involve more subtle but deeply damaging tactics such as manipulation, intimidation, gaslighting, isolation and constant criticism. Emotional abuse can erode a person’s self-esteem. This will often leave the abused person helpless, confused and dependent on the abuser,” Chatmon said.

“While physical abuse can leave obvious bruises or scars, emotional abuse attacks a person’s mental well-being. This can lead to anxiety, depression and long-lasting trauma,” Chatmon explained.

Both forms of abuse fall under the umbrella of domestic violence. Chatmon said emotional abuse often precedes physical abuse.

“It is important to recognize that domestic violence is not just about physical harm. It’s about power and control in a relationship, whether that’s exercised through physical, emotional or psychological means,” Chatmon said.

Leaving a toxic relationship

Partners involved in abusive relationships often find it difficult to leave. However, help is available. The state attorney’s office recommends women seek help at the Family Justice Center, Crisis Center or Domestic Violence Shelter. The county has free resources available 24/7. People can call 240-773-0444 or 240-777-4000.

“If someone is in a toxic or abusive relationship right now, the most important thing they need to know is that it’s not their fault. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they are respected and safe. They should also know that they are not alone and that help is available,” Chatmon said.

She added that if a victim isn’t ready to leave yet, that’s okay. She said it often takes time for a person to figure out the right path for them, but having a plan in place can be a key first step.

Additional Information

Court Watch Montgomery is hosting a webinar on Wednesday, October 30 at 5:00 p.m. The panel will present the findings of its recent report on the outcomes of protection orders. People interested in participating can sign up via Zoom.

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